Any delusions I had were just shattered.
There are 12 kids in the class: 4 girls, 7 boys, and Liam. Liam has two boys that he is particularly close to: C and T. C had a birthday in January, and I was surprised that Liam wasn't invited to celebrate with him. C's mom had us over early in the school year, but Ben cried the whole time as C would not let Ben play with him. The mom seemed frustrated that Liam said "yes" when offered milk but then didn't touch it. Liam doesn't drink milk. The mother knows of Liam's diagnosis but I guess didn't realize that means Liam cannot accurately answer questions. In any case, there hasn't been another playdate.
This morning I overheard T's mom asking C's mom to leave a Saturday open for T's upcoming party. They knew I could hear; they know their boys C and T play with Liam. T's mom then went on to chatter at Ben about snowballs but no mention to me about a party.
I am going between being heartbroken for Liam and furious.
How can anyone excluse this sweet boy?
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that makes me so furious! What a b- word. I'm hopeful that an invitation will still come. I know that I have made a comment here and there to the Moms of Kate's very special friends (her BFF, etc) to keep the date free even though others were invited whom I did not specifically remind to save the date. Hoping that's the case here? (Though, I will say, I always did this via email to be sure nobody overheard me and nobody had hurt feelings). ((HUGS))
Aww! That's really sad. I do hope an invitation is on it's way! If we lived closer I'd definitely invite your boys over and especially to any of Sean's birthdays we have with friends. I think they would be good buddies :)
Don't take it to heart, even though I know it's tough. If it's any consolation, we excluded Tom's typical school friends from his party this year. We just had his out of school friends to his party. Maybe next year we'll switcheroo it, but for me, I wasn't ready to mix the two worlds. I don't discuss any of Tom's issues with any of his school friends' parents. He's been to a couple of school friends' parties this year. Just trying to protect his privacy and he won't be going to elementary school with any of the kids in his preschool class either, so no harm no foul. Maybe it's something as silly as the parents are trying to limit numbers and only invited a couple of kids, who are staying on longer than the summer? Our schools have policies that to hand out invites at school, you have to invite all the kids, which there is no way we were going to do, it would have been chaos.
If you guys lived here, you would've got an invite to Tom's party ;)
Kelly--Liam is (or thinks he is) BFFs with the boy having the party and the other boy invited. The 3 f them are always together.
Kristine--You never know when we'll end up moving to where you are. ;-)
Sarah--There is factor "P" in the equation--both of the other boys have Daddys in the same flying squadron. For whatever reason, most of the kids in Liam's class have Dad's in the same squadron....whatever that dumb plane is where the pilots keep blacking out in flight.....you know the new-ish fighter jet...F-22 maybe? I am no good at the dumb plane stuff.
I bet that's what it is Michelle. Stupid parents don't think about Liam's (or your) feelings, they're probably just like that with the flying squadrons, they are very very cliquey, even from the perspective of intel squadrons. There is a reason for there being lots said about 'pilot wives' especially fighter ones. Sorry if you have other friends who are not like that, but, in my experience, many of them think themselves above any other spouses or career fields. Just wait until one of the hubbies gets a DUI ;)
Take Liam out by himself to do something super fun that day.
Why on God's green earth would a hostess mom get offended if a guest child didn't drink a cup of milk, even if he said he wanted it? Parties are chaos anyway, and even "typical" kids are operating out of their normal comfort zones. I am sorry it had already started and I hope there may still be an invitation coming yet.
Hey Michelle,
I have been following your blog for a while now, we met in Ovusoft.
My little guy has Asperger's so I know how you feel.
I only invited a handful of his closest friends to his party, kids he asked me to invite, not the whole class. I couldn't afford the whole class if I wanted to :)
Do you know if they invited every single child except Liam?
In our case I did take a cake and juice for the entire class the Monday after the party, I just couldn't invite all 17 children plus siblings (here in Greece it is common to just bring your child's siblings along to a party without asking).
Many hugs!
Tina
Oh Michelle, this just sucks. My mother-in-law and I were talking over Christmas about birthday parties for kids our boys' ages and she said any mother who would have a "friend" party and NOT invite every kid from the class is ridiculous (she may have used a stronger word). I can't imagine ever trying to exclude such a sweet boy like Liam. I hope it all works out.
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